For most of my life I have spent every waking second trying to please everybody around me. I want to make my parents proud, I want my friends to think I'm the greatest friend of all time, and I want everyone I meet to think I'm the coolest cat to walk on this planet. In doing this, I lost who I truly was and tried to morph myself into something I thought the world wanted me to be.
This caused me to spiral out of control. I felt lost and alone. I felt confused about who I was and what I wanted out of this life. I had no idea what really interested me, because I would just pretend to like what everyone around me seemed to like.
I found myself in a dark place. I was filled with depression. I didn't want to get out of bed. I felt like a stranger in my own body. I didn't know who Ryan Ginsberg even was.
So, recently, I have decided to focus on myself. I want to spend as much time with myself as I can to find out what is truly going on in mind. I want to find out what things make me truly happy and what things I actually enjoy. It's like I'm meeting myself for the first time.
A common saying that is tossed around is, "You cannot love somebody if you don't truly love yourself." And I am discovering that this cliche couldn't be truer.
Here are a few signs that you may not know yourself as well as you should.
The reason it is so important to know yourself is because your knowledge of who you are as a person are your roots. If you have little knowledge of yourself your roots will be short. If you have a lot of knowledge of yourself your roots will be deep in the soil. You as a person are the tree. As you grow as a person you grow in size. But sometimes life comes at you and begins to shove. It takes away your job, it takes away your money, it takes away your significant other. It exerts all of this energy trying to destroy you.
There are two possible scenarios:
Sometimes life may take everything you know away from you and leave you all alone. Will you know what to do?